What to do when I just dont care Anymore?
Lately I have been overcome with feelings of severe depression and have gotten to a point where I just don’t care about life anymore.
Where should I start? I am in my mid 40’s. I am divorced. I lost my job when the company I worked for filed bankruptcy. After being out of work for almost 1 full year, I finally did get a job. The money is terrible. I am making the same as I was back in 1997! Financially, I am short each month by about 0-0 on basic living expenses. My credit card balances keep going up cause yea, I am basically living on my credit cards.
The job I have sucks. I work in a call center and basically am cursed out, yelled at and screamed out all day.
I am totally alone. I have no girlfriend and have been single for 4 Years now. I haven’t even gone on a date in 2 1/2 years because I don’t have the money and cant afford it. As I mentioned, I am 0-0 per month short NOW–How can I add the expense of dating to that? My idea of a big night is picking up a couple of burgers at Jack in the Box on a Friday and watching a movie at home. (That will surely drive the ladies wild!) I don’t have the money to go out and meet someone, or even join an online dating service.
The things I used to enjoy doing I no longer have any interest in. I love Baseball, but have lost interest in that. I love to read and write–but cant focus on that. I have 2 small dogs that I love, but I don’t even bother playing with them anymore. I don’t even care about my appearance. We have a casual dress code at my job and I show up in torn jeans, old t-shirts and a 3 day beard.
I did spend 3 days in a ‘hospital’ for observation last year. I was determined to get help and get my life in order. But my insurance does not cover appointments to speak with a mental health professional and I don’t have the money to do that. I’ve checked for low costs clinics in my area but none can be found cause I work unusual hours at my job. I do take an anti-depressant (Xanax) and asked my DR if she could increase the dosage. She refused. I don’t have any brothers or sisters. I really don’t have any close friends anymore. The reason for that is my depression and negativity–and I don’t blame them. Who wants to around someone who is down and depressed and quiet all the time. My relationship with my parents is decent–at best.
Will I attempt suicide? No. I don’t have the nerve to do it and knowing my luck, I’d only fail at that, too, and wind up arrested. Or as a vegetable. I do take prescriptions meds for high BP and cholesterol but have begun to cut down/cut them out altogether. A couple months back I stopped taking my cholesterol pills. After about a week, I started getting dizzy and not feeling right. Stupidly, I got scared and resumed taking them. Call it a ‘reverse’ suicide if you will. I have once again stopped as I continue to push my health. I am smoking more. driving faster and more recklessly.
Suggestions? Oh–and please dont say something like ‘talk a walk’ or ‘pray.’ I am not religious at all
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2 comments
Kool Koala on August 30, 2010 at 7:01 am
I have sympathy for you and I do know how you feel. If you can believe it my life is worse than yours (I won’t go into details) You need to get therapy somehow; I know it’s difficult but keep trying. You should find something that you enjoy doing to keep your mind occupied (that helps me).
I would recommend that you change doctors if you can’t get the medication you need; there are many medications available and you should keep trying until you find something that works for you. I would also suggest that you take time off your job to get help. You can get Social Security if your doctor approves your disability claim.
Good Luck, I hope you are successful finding a solution to your problems.
Cindrella on August 30, 2010 at 7:01 am
Hey friend,
Dont think of suicide and all this is all ridiculous.
You dont need doctor for depression but do take medications for your body.
you can talk to people either online or in person
just be busy and while alone just think about yourself anybody’s happiness is fully dependent on himself nobody in this world can make you happy if you yourself is unhappy just be happy.
Also find a partner for yourself it can only a friend also and if you find your soul mate then it will be more cool.
Try online dating there are many online dating websites that are free also try http://www.isisandosiris.com.au this is a genuine dating website.