Why are the women I meet on dating websites pathologically narcissistic, self-destructive, and miserable?
So, I joined this site because I don’t go out drinking. I spend my time studying, working as a freelance artist, and weight lifting. I have the jock appearance, but I lack their traditional intellectual bankruptcy. My physique is generally superior to the other males on the site, resulting in frequent responses from women. We strike up discourse online, and end up meeting.
I have been consistently disappointed in the women after I get to know them. They display many symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder to an extreme degree (drug addicts/ex-addicts, lack of empathy etc), they tend to be exploitative as well.
Not only that, but the person they describe themselves to be is in direct contrast with their behavior. Many times they are condescending because of some bizarre preconceived notion that the entire reason I joined the site was out of sexual desperation. I could go to a bar and have sex every weekend if I chose (though it would be at the expense of my physique and my work). I don’t want to just have sex though, so I don’t spend time telling them what they want to hear if I think its in contradiction to reality. They seem to have trouble agreeing to disagree.
My question is, what the fuck are you women doing? When I used to hit up the bars I would see similar behavior, just not to an extreme degree. I’m sure there are psychologically balanced, moderately intelligent women out there, but what are the locations can I find them?
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9 comments
Anita on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
You’re looking in the wrong place for a girl.
Maybe you should go to the library, a coffee shop (cyber cafe?) or try hooking up with girls you meet at the gym.
Are there any places on campus to just hang out (if you go to college), do you attend church or are you involved in any community things? Those would also be some great places to meet attractive and intelligent ladies.
Or maybe you could try tutoring, hard to tell who you’ll meet that way.
Hope this helps. Good Luck in your search.
Bobby on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
Too long to read, but i read the title and the closing. And i agree 100%, i’m starting to think normal women don’t exist anymore
craig d on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
They are on dating websites therefore by definition insane. I could tell you stories. Best answer find a way to make them laugh and go meet them where they aren’t ready for you.
go to a bookstore – approach an attractive women that is looking at a book to purchase. Tell her you just finished it and it was great. Then ask if she wants to know how it ends. When she stops laughing you can get a date.
Future Mrs Zigler on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
Hmm…interesting.
I did take the time to read and I think that women who participate in online dating would probably say the same things about men.
Good luck in the online dating world.
abby_esteban on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
soo u go on website to talk to women thos women dont got life thats why they always hiding in back of a computer .. dont look for a women on a webiste u should take time for ur self and go out ..
My son is due 8-23-09 on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
My sister is having the same problem.
She recently got out of a 3 year relationship and is ready to find a man who understands a woman, that seems to be something that all the men she has come in contact with cannot do.
Her location—- Denver Metro area, CO…
Paige Meredith on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
You need a good Christian, southern belle.
I agree with how you are describing many women, but please…the men out there are just as bad if not worse, with a few exceptions of course.
I am a good southern belle and I would never dream of being with anyone except a gentleman. Usually, guys giving off a certain signal attract a certain kind of woman. Maybe you are giving off the wrong signals?
Good luck!
paradigm81 on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
Perhaps you should attract the type of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. Start in the mirror. If some thing is not working, change it. Experiment a little bit. Avoid bars, if this is your vice. It does not seem to work for you. Seek a less common place for singles. Singles are everywhere…. check the less common places that you go to look.
I guarantee the woman that meets your expectations will be in the final place you look for her.
Lauren on August 31, 2010 at 8:52 am
You’re looking in the wrong places. If you like a certain hobby or a there is a subject you like; join a class or a group where you’ll find someone with common interests & intelligence. If you want someone who is caring, go volunteer somewhere. Hope this helps!